I’ve created this site to save other women
from not feeling the absolute love and appreciation that they deserve. Let me tell the story of why real women don’t
the moment I first realized my life was perfect. I was 25 years old. The first 23 years of my life had been lonely and I’d
spent my life existing mainly in a depressed state not feeling loved, not feeling alive, not feeling energetic. I did not
feel confident, powerful or appreciated. I wanted to feel like I was special and I mattered. Now on the day after my 25th
birthday I realized all this had changed.
having a dinner party with 2 of my friends. My house was spotless and looked like something from a Good Housekeeping photo
shoot. Although it was a smallish modest home it was the absolute envy of my 2 friends and they spent the first hour of our
visit gushing about how perfect it was. Andy my husband came down to help me finish up dinner. He was well dressed, well groomed
and they could both tell by the way he treated my that he absolutely adored me. When he left Kelly said she wished her husband
was as in love with her as Andy was with me. Sheri added that he had a butt that could crack a walnut.
meal was perfect. The conversation pleasant but still focused on my perfect house, my perfect husband and my perfect child.
Andy was babysitting them and put them to bed as the hour grew late. He came in to say she was sleeping and to inquire if
we needed anything else before he cleaned up the dishes. He poured us some wine and busied himself with putting the kitchen
and dinning room back into perfect order. He added some water to the flowers that he had brought me that morning and gave
me kiss and hug before trotting off to bed.
he went to bed Kelly said “Oh my god your husband just did more around your house then my husband did in the last year”.
Then both Kelly and Sheri started in on how unhelpful and unloving their husbands are and how they don’t do a thing
around the house, they’d come home from work and start in about why the house wasn’t clean, never took care of
the children and had let themselves go physically to the point being unattractive.
into my chair feeling incredibly satisfied with my life and realizing how incredibly lucky I was to have the relationship
that I did. I knew exactly how they felt about their husbands. I have heard it again and again. I just smiled and expressed
my sympathy for how unhappy they were. I accepted their admiration on my perfect marriage. On the way out the door Sheri thanked
me for the night and suggested I write a book of advice so she could have a life
like mine. I laughed and she looked at me with a very serious expression and said “Really, if you taught a class I’d
be the first to sign up, next time I come over I’m not leaving until I have all your secrets!”.
I closed the door I knew I’d never be teaching that class.
website is an attempt to help save a few marriages and to give women smart enough to listen the extreme joy that I’ve
been fortunate enough to experience. I have to warn you though secret is not
I tell you the secret let me tell you about what my life was like the day before I discovered the secret.
Andy while at work. He was cute, funny and made me feel like the center of his world. We dated for 1 year before being married.
During this time he opened every door for me. He took me out whenever I wanted. I felt he respected me as an equal. We had
great conversations about every detail of life. He really cared and loved me. Fast forward to the night before I discovered
the secret. Andy and I had been married for 3 years. He had stopped helping me around the house. We had a daughter but he
never helped with her. He had a mediocre job and when he came home he sat on the couch and waited for me to serve him dinner.
He complained about how I kept the house. He complained about what I made for dinner. How long I talked on the phone. He whined
when I talked on the phone with my friends but when I didn’t talk on the phone he did not talk to me anyhow. That night
after eating he sat his dish on the coffee table for me to pick up and went to our bedroom to watch football. He stuck me
with the dishes, entertaining our daughter, and finally putting her to bed. I climbed into bed exhausted and started to drift
off to sleep. We had not had sex in more then a week but I was too tired and honestly he was about 50 pounds heavier then
when we first met and had taken to wearing the sweat pants that he used to paint the house and never washed to bed. He never
brushed his teeth and well I would rather go without then go through getting some pleasure from him. I was thinking about
what a shame this was because we used to have the hottest raunchiest sex and now we didn’t even kiss goodnight. As I
drifted off to sleep he started to feel me up. I was too tired to bother stopping him. So he climbed on did his thing with
no regard to my pleasure then rolled over and went to sleep. We did not even speak one word during this whole process.
then hit me like a ton of bricks. I wanted out. I did not want to spend another minute with him. He had become a distant stranger.
The spark was long gone.
up for hours switching between planning how to leave him and wondering if I should try marriage counseling.
I woke up the next morning my day started again with taking care of him and my daughter. I made dinner. I cleaned up after
him. He bitched about why I never made my special fried chicken any more, he complained about how the house looked. He got
up and went to the bedroom again. This just reinforced all my feelings. After putting my daughter to bed I entered the room
and was ready to tell him it was over. When I walked in I could tell he was jerking off and had stopped the moment I opened
the door. I knew he was Horney and where this was going. I decided I would pull the ultimate fuck you on him and get him all
hot and bothered and then tell him I was leaving him.
some KY from the bathroom. Told him to lay back and started stroking him slowly. I could tell he was very close and then I
stopped. He sat bolt upright and looked at me. Why did you stop he asked. I told him I was mad at him for complaining about
the meal I’d made him. He said he was sorry!. I could not believe. Not only was this the longest conversation we had
had in a month but he was apologizing. He said he would not do it again and that he appreciated the fact that I’d made
him dinner. In the whole time we’d been married he’d never said thank you or that he was even happy that I cooked
for him. I did not know what to do so I started stroking him again. I was having second thoughts. What if he really did care
about me still? I asked him if he would help me with the dishes tomorrow. He just kind of grunted. I stopped stroking and
he sat up again and said he would do the dishes the next day. I told him that I hated doing dishes and that helping for just
one day was not enough. He said dishes were no big deal and he’d do them from now on. I could not believe it. I can’t
tell you how many times I’d asked him for help. Every time I’d asked it ended in an argument and him saying it
was my job because I was a girl and because he worked and I didn’t. I finished him off and then something that had not
happened for a long time happened. After he cleaned up he leaned over and said “I love you” and gave me a kiss.
whole next day I thought about it. I wondered if he was just saying what I wanted to hear just to have an orgasm. However
that night he did the dishes without me even mentioning it. That night I climbed into bed and he started the normal presex
moves. I said lay back and got the KY out again. I stoked him until he was close again and this time when I stopped I mentioned
that it would be nice if he took tuck in duties sometimes as well. He was all of sudden very interested in putting our daughter
to bed from now on despite the fact that he had never done this in 3 years. I must have asked him 1,000 times. But all of
a sudden because it was obstacle that came between having an orgasm he was happy to do it! I could not believe it.
make a long story short. I have not had to put my daughter to sleep our do a dish since then. In fact over the next 2 years
time with some trial and experimentation I have used his desire to cum to build the perfect life. I’m going to give
you the details so that you can apply them to your husband. If you do you can expect.
1.) You will be the complete center
of his world.
2.) He will treat you even better then
on the first date you had.
3.) He will respect you and cherish
you to an extent that will amaze you.
4.) He will open up and express his
feeling to you.
5.) He will do whatever you’d
like and love every minute of it.
6.) Your relationship will grow stronger
then it has ever been.
7.) Most importantly you will never
lift a finger again unless you want too!
Please do not continue reading if.
You can’t handle graphic talk about sex.
You feel like you aren’t equal to men.
You believe it is wrong to use sex to get what you
You can’t handle the idea of non-traditional
Ok you are still reading so here it goes. Don’t
say I did not warn you. First things first.
The truth about men’s sex drive.
They were created by nature to fuck everything in
sight. They are constantly horny. They can hide this fact to some extent but they think about sex almost all the time.
The average man jerks off 11.2 times per week. That’s
right. Your husband is jerking off almost 2 times a day. I know you don’t believe it but it is true. Your husband is
not the exception. He is doing this when you think he is going to the bathroom. Right next to you in bed. In the car on his
way to work. When he is taking a shower. As soon as you leave him alone to go to the grocery store. If you don’t believe
him ask him about some of his friends and how often he thinks they jerk off. If he isn’t embarrassed talking about it
he’ll tell you they jerk off all the time. Of course he will say he doesn’t because he only likes to have sex
with you. This is bullshit. You can fuck him every night for a year and he will still jerk off the same amount. This is how
strong the male sex drive is. I don’t care if your husband is 60 if he can do it he is jerking off just as much as when
he was 16. He can’t help it. It is a basic instinct that is simply beyond his control.
will use this fact to your advantage. You will both gain. He will get off and you will live like a goddess. He will love you
more then ever for doing it too!
I discovered this simple fact after some research
and some experimentation. I now spend about 30 minutes every few days on sex and my husband does every single duty around
the house. He cooks, he cleans and I don’t mean tidies up I mean he does housework like a professional maid. You could
eat off the toilet rim in my bathroom. He lays out my towels, my toothpaste. He does all the grocery shopping. He makes sure
I don’t run out of shampoo because if I do. No Cumming for him. At my house the toilet seat is never left up. A glass
is never left out. He gives me flowers every Thursday many times with a nice note or card. I don’t open a door. My favorite
black boots are always polished. The laundry is always done. The trash is taken out. He plans nights out. He has not said
a rude or unkind thing to me in years and this is all straight from his heart. He adores me and is happier then he ever was.
I have more self esteem then anyone I know. I’m
able to handle being loved this deeply and sincerely with the grace that it deserves. I feel like the queen that he treats
want this for yourself and your husband read on. If you don’t… go get some serious help. If you don’t love
yourself to give yourself this gift you must have a screw loose!
Here it goes.
First forget about sex with your husband. You’ll
be having all the sexual gratification that you ever wanted. In fact probably more then you ever had before so don’t
worry about that part. I just mean you can not be attached to the idea of your husband fucking you for your fulfillment. You’ll
get it other ways that are even better so don’t worry but if you deep down need to be fucked by him it will be an obstacle.
If your one of those women that never get horny even better.
Second get comfortable with the idea that you can
still respect your husband and admire all his good qualities even if he does some things you consider not logical or not masculine. Imagine that when he is horny he is possed by demons. Your job is to use your
femine power to re focus those demons in constructive ways.
More story then I’ll give you the details.
In the first 6 months I worked on my technique to
get my husband to do what I wanted. The next year I used my new talent to help him accomplish his goals. Since we started
he gave up chewing tobacco, lost that 50 pounds he gained. He lifts weights 4 times a week and plays tennis 2 days a week.
He has a body like a boxer. It’s better then when we met. I really don’t care but it drives my female friend crazy
with envy. All this to make me happy. To make me happy because he knows if I’m happy he will get to cum. So you can
use this power beyond just getting out of doing dishes. You can harness the most potent psychological force a man has to help
him live up to his potential. So you see everyone wins!
By now I’m certain you are starting to understand.
If you can control your husbands sex drive you will be able to use this to get what you want. In order to do this you will
need to follow this basic formula.
1.) Control his orgasm frequency. Make
yourself the sole focus of his sexual release.
2.) Leave him wanting more.
3.) Make him except you as the sole
provider of sexual pleasure.
1.) Control his orgasm frequency: Get
him to commit to not jerking off. He will lie about this. He will tell you he is not jerking off but he is. Don’t be
mad with him it is very hard for him to control it. You will be able to tell if he is jerking off by the volume of his cum
and the desperation to get off. You will soon find if he gets off too cum to often then he will be lazy and not be motivated
to do what you ask. If he does not get off enough he will get irritable and cranky. Later on in your relationship he will
be able to express this. At the start you will need to do some trial and error testing to find this out. Here are my recommendations.
First of all. He will always want an orgasm
if given the choice. Ask your husband if he wants a blow job and he will always say yes. Give him a blow job and wait an hour
and ask him again. He will want another one. So you need to find a way to make sure he is really horny and not just kind of
horny. How do make sure? Make him do something he would never do unless he was motivated by extreme horniness. For the first
6 months of our relationship I had a deal. He was not allowed to jerk off by himself but was allowed to jerk off on my feet
whenever he wanted… provided every item on his checklist was done and he licked it up afterwards. If was not horny enough
to do that it was too soon and he did not need to cum that badly. Now he only dreams of the good old days when this was all
he had to do but it worked well then. He would only ask when he was extremely horny and of course all his chores were done.
If the trash can needed emptying then I’d tell him not until it was done and it would be taken care of inside of 5 minutes.
time passes he will get used to this and it won’t be so humiliating for him anymore. He will then start asking to be
allowed to jerk off too frequently. Of course if he becomes to satisfied he won’t be wrapped around your finger so just
add another item. For example after about 2 weeks I would make him call himself bitch. Like can your bitch jerk off on your
foot? Can your bitch lick up his own cum? Don’t forget to make him say please and thank you.
If your not getting the desired response it
is because he is jerking off when you don’t know it. The very simple cure is to get a device called a CB6000. This will prevent him from being able to jerk off. I discovered
this about 1 year into my experiment and wish I had it to start out with. It takes all the guess work out of if he is jerking
off or not. Google it. You’ll need one!
To further humiliate him during his jerk off
time and make sure he is truly Horney when he asks, this is one of my favorites. We have an oversized foot stool made of leather.
It’s about 3 feet by 3 feet. Sometimes when he comes and asks to be able to jerk off I put my foot on the stool and
let him stick his cock between my foot and the stool. I let him put some KY down for lubrication if I’m feeling nice
or make him use his spit if I’m in an evil mood (the spit dries faster and makes him stop and start over and over).
I sit back and watch TV or read a magazine while this is going on. No need for me to do anything.
For additional humiliation make him back up
to the stool on his hands and knees and stick his cock backward between his legs under you foot. While he’s there make
his ass red with a belt. After some time this will not be enough to prevent him from asking to frequently so I started letting
him hump under my left foot while sticking my right big toe in his ass while having him call himself a bitch.
Shocked? Not comfortable? Get over it! Give
yourself some time it’s a very small price to pay for all the rewards! The humiliation is essentials so you make sure
he is not getting off to often and also he needs to jerk off in front of you. You don’t want him jerking off alone thinking
of some other women. You want to make sure every time he gets off you are there and the focus of his attention. You will become
the sole focus of his sexual thoughts. The CB6000 can help you here. The CB6000 is a chastity device that will allow you to
keep cock under lock and key. I wear the key on an anklet or around my neck. If he is reluctant to follow a task I let him
give me a foot rub and stare at the key a bit or I play with it around my neck. He always sees things my way after that. If
he has one on he will never be able to jerk off without you being right in front of him and being the only object of his sex
Try new ideas. But don’t blow him or let him fuck you. He has no right to come up to and ever expect these types of
2.) Leave him wanting more: Very simple, don’t
let him jerk off and cum quickly. If your in early stages and he is jerking off on your foot. When he is close to Cumming
stop him. Have him get you a glass of wine and start again.. Or one of my favorites. Have him warm himself up. Say OK you
can come but first you have to bring yourself close to orgasm 4 times. In this case let him jerk off until he has some pre
cum oozing out. Wipe it on your foot ask to lick it off then repeat 4 times. I promise when you do let him come it will be
one of the best orgasms he’s hade. If he is humping between your foot and the stool when he is close to orgasm just
lift your foot off. Laugh at him and say “oh I’m sorry bitch were you close?” then let him start again.
I give him a sheet of paper with several little circles and make him put pre-cum in each one before he can cum. Sometimes
I give him a shot glass and ask him to fill it with a little pre-cum. This can take a long time and he always blushes when
he shows me the glass and asks if it’s enough. Of course he’ll have to do the shot before he is finally allowed
to jerk off on my foot. I’ll usually make him beg more then a little.
you don’t have a stool get one. If you can’t afford one let him hump your hand. When he is close to coming open
your hand. Just get a book you can read with one hand or a decent TV show and you’ll hardly notice he’s there.
I’ll let him cum only if he shoots it in his own face. I think you can see there are a million ways to make it unpleasant
enough that he won’t be asking to jerk off every day!
To sum it all up:
Give him a way to jerk off,
Make it unpleasant so he does not ask for
it 2 times a day. Your shooting for something humiliating enough so he only comes to you every few days (although expect more
at the start).
Make him get himself off without any effort
Give him a checklist of items that need to
be done before he is allowed the privilege.
2.) Make him except you as the sole
provider of his sexual pleasure:
Again make sure you re-enforce in his mind
that you can meet his sexual needs. Make sure he comes enough that he doesn’t look for another partner in desperation.
In addition give him a few special night a week were he can really focus his attention on you. Unlike the humiliating jerk
off session this is a chance for him to experience some actual contact from you. I like to start these sessions with a 30
minute message. I have him give me a good rub down. I want to make sure he is horny for this so the rule is that if he does
not stay hard for the entire 30 minutes no orgasm for him. So while he is rubbing me down he will need to give his cock a
rub sometimes as well. Think of all the foreplay he gets this way with no effort on your part. Once I’m well relaxed
I’ll have him give me oral sex for a while. I love this but I have him do it even if I’m not that horny. Of course
he will need to keep himself hard for this as well. So now he has gone 45 minutes with a hard on and because you have been
controlling how often he gets off so instead of getting off 11.2 times this week he has got off maybe 3 times. He will be
hornier then you’ve ever seen him.
I’m in need of penetrative sex I do one of 2 things. My favorite is to have him fuck me with a dildo or his fingers
while eating me out. I love this. He has gotten to be so good at making me orgasm this way I prefer it to regular sex.
I really want to get screwed doggy style. When this happens I make him wear a penis extender. It is so thick that he really
can’t feel a thing but it feels like the real thing to me.
have a strap on. Sometimes I’ll make him put it on and fuck me. I get the same sensation as getting pounded and he just
gets more frustrated. Of course if he has been bad sometimes I put it on and fuck him. Once you have your man begging you
to fuck him with the strap on so that you’ll give him a hand job afterwards, well let’s just say you won’t
worry about having to vacuum again anytime soon. You can also have him jerk off on the dildo and lick it off (make fag jokes
while he does it) or have him lick it clean after he fucks you with before you’ll give him a handjob (funny the dildo
get’s more action the he does, make sure you remind him)
I’ve had my message and I’ve been satisfied sexually I’ll give him what he’s been desperate for this
blow him sometimes. I usually give him a slow handjob. I haven’t let him fuck me in a long time. I don’t want
him feeling like he can “have” me sexually. I frequently play a game with him. I have too many to list and I’m
sure you’ll come up with your own but a good one is what I call ten strokes. He jerks off for 10 strokes. Then I jerk
him off for 10 strokes over my feet. If he comes while he is jerking himself off he wins (but the poor bitch really loses
because he did not get the pleasure of an orgasm from someone besides himself) . If he comes while I’m jerking him off
he loses and has to lick it up. You should see the confusion, the harder he tries to get himself off the easier time I have
getting him off on the next 10 strokes.
he has not done well that week He does not get to have a full orgasm. I tell him he is being punished and I jerk him off until
he just starts to cum. Then I let go. I promise he will never make you unhappy again. I’m told by him this is much worse
then having no orgasm at all.
So this is some of the secret. I’ll
post more as I have time but if you follow these steps you’ll have the perfect husband who will treat like everyday
is your first date. For very little effort on your part you’ll never do housework again and be the envy of your friends
and the object of his every adoration!
What an incredible few days. People always amaze
me! The old site had about 400 visitors over the year that I had it up. I accidently deleted it while trying to add a new
posting. I put this one up and there have been 3,000 visitors in just 4 days!
This also caused some issues. People who “maybe”
know me or my husband have been sending us all sorts of e-mails. This is not proper behavior. I will post a new e-mail address
for this site when I get around to it but please hold off before then. The reason is that we have a normal life. This is just
a small part of it and I don’t want people treating us odd because of our little fun (OK lots of fun). So please
no more e-mails and no more phone calls! My husband and I have just been denying it is us and will continue to do so and will
only respond to the anonymous e-mail address when it comes up.
I don’t want anyone to think I’m mad
at them and I think the people from his old job are hysterical but… I never meant this to be as non-private as
it’s become. If everyone can’t play nice I’ll take the site down.
I can’t help but respond to some e-mails that
my husband got.
First he is not my personal doormat. You are completely
not understanding the point. This is something he enjoys as much if not more then you. I’m asking him to write a short
note explaining why he likes it so you can get a clearer picture.
Second this is not our whole life. For me this is
only a very small part of my day.
Second I received a few notes to the effect of “I
do everything around the house already and still don’t get sex from my wife”. My response is wouldn’t it
be better if you did get something out of it? Isn’t our situation better then yours? My husband never thinks of cheating.
I’m sure you do almost every day and you will. Men can not go that long on masturbation alone. Send your wife here and
I’ll straighten her out.
To S. who through some experimentation will never
do dishes again. Congratulations I told you! Isn’t this the most fun you’ve had in a long time?
Sorry for the rant a few days ago. I was just upset
about people trying to judge me.
A note from my man ( who’s name I won’t
use any more). I told him he had to write something in detail as one of his tasks for the week.
To whom it may concern.
have received many e-mails and more then a few phone calls busting my balls about what is in print on this site and the arrangement
that my wife and I have. I have denied being the person named here but still wanted
a chance to tell my side so that everyone will understand that I’m not being taken advantage of and love almost every
minute of this experience. It’s very simple. Not being able to have an orgasm whenever I want makes the ones that I
have very special and very, very intense. Nothing can compare to the feelings of lust and desire I feel after a few days of
going without. I no longer look at other women (unless they have a key what good would they do me).
more focused and more productive then I’ve been in my life. If I set a goal it becomes on of my tasks for the week and
it always get’s done. I was the worst procrastinator but no more.
main thing is that when you are that worked up everything becomes about sex. When I’m doing my chores they are not dull
and boring or a task to be done. They become about getting the chance to have my needs fulfilled. They are about an obstacle
to be removed so I can have my extremely urgent need fulfilled. It is like foreplay all day and that makes
the eventual orgasm even more intense. My wife says “go run a bath for me, add some bath oil and while I’m in
there do the laundry” it makes me so completely horny it’s hard to explain. The entire time I’m doing the
laundry I’m thinking “I wonder if I she will get me off when she’s done if I do a good job on the laundry”.
I start to anticipate it. I get knots in my stomach thinking about it, hoping for it. It’s like being 17 again. I walk
around all day thinking about nothing but having sex with her. The anticipation and anxiety is just the same as I had while
dating in high school. I have the same love sick feelings. I can’t sleep sometimes thinking about being with her. Wouldn’t
you like to have those feelings for your wife again? When I’m with my friends and they are all bitching about their
wives I’m usually the only that is still completely in love with their spouse. We had lost this connection after
a few short years of marriage but this is making it even stronger then when we just started dating. So I get to feel all those
strong emotions all over again and they are not even coming close to wearing off. As soon as things start to level out she
comes up with some new and interesting way to keep me happy and horny. I get all these things and as a side benefit my wife
does not have to do anything she does not want to do. It makes me horny with anticipation to vacuum. If she did it would just
be one more thing for her to do. When I do the work it’s really just extended foreplay. I also want her to save all
her energy so that she feels like getting me off instead of feeling tired from doing house work all day. I’m extremely
happy to make this trade off. I do not know of any man that would not do a few chores for an orgasm.
I do get to have an orgasm it is not the typical orgasm. She will keep me frustrated for a half hour and when I can finally
have some release it is the most mind-blowing experience ever. Its ten times better then normal sex. I know I can’t
get that from someone else so I don’t even think about it. I’m the most satisfied and productive man in the world!
He made it 3 days since his last little jerk off
session. I gave him a very nice hand job to celebrate New Years with (I know I’m just sentimental sucker). Today after
lunch he came up from his office and asked very nicely if he could jerk off. Now I know after 3 days he is extremely in need
of an orgasm. He has probably not been thinking of anything else for the last 24 hours and is now completely desperate. I
could have just said OK and unlocked him and let him do his thing but the whole point is to absolutely exhaust his desire
so that he doesn’t come back in an hour and ask again. So I get him on his knees while I relax in our recliner. I tell
him first he has to produce some precum for me. This means he has to get right up to the point that he could have an orgasm
any minute and stop. At this point I could do a million things with him but I choose more of the same. I tell him to let me
know once he has done this 6 times. When we first stated anything over 4 was a impossible. I go back to watching TV while
he is doing this. About 15 minutes pass he looks at me and says he is done. He is red faced and I can tell he is really worked
up. I tell him to bring the stool over and I place my foot on it. I say “2 more bitch”. When he is worked up he
really enjoys this kind of talk. He starts humping away and I can tell he is getting close to the precum stage. I pick my
foot up and say “Go make me some tea”. I go back to watching TV. He prepares the fasted cup of tea you’ve
ever seen and then comes back. He has lost most of his erection so he has to give it a few tugs before he starts humping again.
I laugh at him and call him limp dick. I tell him if he can’t keep it up then maybe he really doesn’t need an
orgasm. He looks at me with terror and pain in his eyes. It’s like someone has kicked him in the balls. He is completely
overloaded and desperate. I tell him to give me a backrub and I’ll think it over and that if he can’t stay hard
while rubbing my back I’ll know he is not that horny and no orgasm for him.
goes on to give me a great rubdown. The next 20 minutes his entire world is focused on me and doing the best job he can so
that I let him jerk off when he's done. You can’t get this kind of attention from any spa. He has to stop every now
and then and give himself a few tugs to keep it up but it’s not really a distraction from my enjoyment.
he is done I allow him to go back to humping. I go back to watching TV. He manages the precum stage once. I let him lick it
off the top of my foot. He get’s close to the second one and pick my foot up so that he has nothing to hump against.
He almost cries. I laugh because I know laughing turns him on even more.
has now been about 45 minutes since we started. Have you ever seen how incredibly horny a man can get after 45 minutes of
stimulation with no orgasm? The average round of sex is between 4-6 minutes of actual penetration before the man cums. We
are now around 10 times that. He is ready to do anything to cum. I am about to give him an orgasm that will leaving him a
quivering wreck. I let him go back to humping and he produces precum number 2.
has spent 50 minutes on edge. I have really not done much of anything but relax. I’ve got a cup of tea, I’ve had
a nice backrub, I’ve watched my show but that is about it. I guess I can give him a little attention. I think of what
to do with him now. Things that run through my mind.
a.) Play 10 strokes this is one of my
favorites. I have recently found if I taunt him a bit while playing it makes him even hotter.
b.) Have him lay upside down with
butt on the couch and his shoulders on the floor so his dick is pointing over his face. That way I can jerk him off and he
give himself a facial when he does come. Have him open his mouth and catch some for added points. During the summer 10 of
these earned him a blow job.
c.) Have him put a towel around my leg
and hump himself off between the towel and my leg. (I think he has humped enough for today) This is really good when you are
laying on your stomach in bed reading.
d.) Set my egg timer for between 5-10
minutes. I don’t tell him how long. He has to keep himself on edge so that when it goes off he can make himself come
in 30 seconds or less. If he does he doesn’t he has to lick it up.
After weighing the options I decide on playing
10 strokes. I sit cross legged on the floor with one foot out. He puts a towel under it and kneels over it. We take turns
stroking his dick ten times. He goes fast when he thinks he can comes but slows down as soon as he knows he won’t. I
grab it as soon as he let’s go and stroke very quickly. We don’t count out loud as this kind of ruins it for me
for some reason. 2 rounds of this and he shoots an incredible amount of cum. I laugh at him and say “lick it up bitch”
He does, says thank you. Then falls into a blissful heap on the floor. He lays there content for a few minutes.
has had a more powerful orgasm then most men will ever experience. The only involvement I’ve had is the 20 or so strokes
I gave him. So I’ve traded all those household duties for a few quick flicks of my wrist and believe me he could not
be more happy. Silly girls why aren’t you doing the same?
He finally snaps out of his euphoria and
says. “Do we still need milk?” And follows this by “oh yeah, I almost forgot do you care if I go over to
Shaun's for the Super Bowl”?
And just like that we are back to being a
regular married couple.
I’m going to start writing a step by
step starting early next week. I want to give you (especially you S.) some details on how to get started. The first few months
are the hardest and then it’s easy.
Update Jan. 8th
WARNING: Remember this is all in good fun. Make
sure this is fun for everyone. Sex is something to be shared and not used as a weapon. You should both be having fun with
this. Make sure you are getting everything you need first. Get all the backrubs, foot messages and orgasms you need everyday
before worrying about keeping him happy. If you do this it will be a great experience for both of you! I think I focus too
much on what to do to him to keep him hot and bothered. Just remember the whole point is to keep him happy in his role of
satisfying you. You don't even really need to have a list of to do items. It could be for your relationship just the hot sex
Why does this work so well? The male sex drive is
crazy. It is from some portion of his brain that has not caught up with the rest of our civilized lives. Your SO’s sex
drive is basically that of a cave mans. If you look at how all other pack animals live you’ll see that the males entire
existence is built around getting and trying to get laid. Let’s look at monkeys for an example. One male screws all
the females. That’s right one male is having all the sex he can handle the rest are having none. Every moment of the
other males lives are spent desiring the females, striving to become the one alpha male. They spend all of their time looking
at the females and wanking off. Not unlike a teen age boy with a Playboy.
interesting thing is that the monkeys that are not alpha males treat the females very well. They groom them, bring them food
and protect them. The Alpha male who can fuck them anytime he wants treats the same females like crap. As soon as the nice
non-alpha male becomes the alpha male he stops being nice, stops bringing them food and grooming them.
the same as your loving boyfriend stopped being the greatest guy in the world the moment he knew he could get all the sex
he wanted from he. That is the moment he became the alpha male.
don’t want an alpha male. You want the non alpha male! As soon as you can turn your SO into the sub male he will start
treating you the way you deserve to be treated. I love the feeling of being lusted after. I guess it is some kind of confidence
thing but who cares. I just love being wanted and the feeling of power I get from it. He loves getting that knot in his stomach
like a teenager wondering if I’ll touch him or not. He enjoys the struggle of trying to become the alpha male again
just like when you first started dating.
For those smart enough to have already started the
process here are some basic ideas. I’m going to assume that you are already controlling when and how he can get off.
Your making sure it’s always done in your presence and that you are the focus of his attention. Here are a few rules
1.) We already talked about no penetration. Only
the alpha male get’s to penetrate you. If you need this find another way to get it. Believe me he will get so good with
his tongue and fingers with some practice you’ll never look back.
2.) You grant him permission to cum if he has met
your requirements. I promise he will!
3.) Let him relieve himself at first whenever he
asks and later every 3 days or longer if he needs to be reminded of his place.
4.) Most of the time he should be getting himself
off with little or no work on your part.
5.) Two times a week to start you should be giving
him a hand job. Every once in a great while you should consider giving him more. After some time reduce this to 1 time a week.
6.) Everything you do sexually should reinforce
his role as the non-alpha male.
It is extremely important that these wank sessions
be intense. If you just spend 10 minutes on a hand job or let him jerk off until he cums as soon as possible he will be satisfied
and start treating you like an alpha male. Each session should take between 30 and 60 minutes. Don’t worry you won’t
be doing much work!
The fun really doesn’t start until he his
close to orgasming. Don’t waste your time getting him there. He wants to get off so he can get himself there for you.
You can have him tell you when he’s there but it’s easy to tell by his breathing and general sense of urgency.
He will try and just get off but don’t let him!
What should you do when he’s almost there?
Well toy with him of course. Take advantage of his desperate need to cum by completely belittling him.
I’ve already told you about the stool. It’s
a classic and works oh so well. You can keep him going for as long as you want and still get your book read!
Other Evil Ideas
I once read about this method of jerking of a guy
off. You grab his shaft with one hand and then you rub the head of his dick on your palm in circles. No stroking. Just rubbing.
I did this to my husband a few times and he said it was a very intense orgasm. It also takes FOREVER to do. I can’t
do this while reading so I came up with this idea. He grabs the shaft of his cock and rubs the head on the bottom of my foot.
No stroking allowed. It will take him a long time to get close. When he does I make him stop and lick all the pre-cum of that
foot while starting again on the next foot. Then when he get’s close again I make him switch again. No real effort on
my part. I can easily keep him at it for a long time and the resulting orgasm will leave him in a heap on the floor.
One time he asked me for a blow job. I had to put
that out of his head right away. That is alpha male thinking and should not be encouraged. Here is what I did. I had him get
himself close a few times as always. When he was deeply desperate to cum I got out my dildo. I said something like “it’s
been so long since I sucked your cock I can’t even remember how. Why don’t you show me how you like it bitch?”.
I got him on all fours and grabbed his dick. Every time he went down on my dildo I stroked at the same speed. He was not really
into it at first but the faster he went the faster I went. I stopped to laugh at him when he got close and told him what a
good job he was doing. He never asked for a blowjob again for some reason. It was so fun I’ve had him do it a few times
since then. This is one of my favorite punishments. He is always so well behaved for the next several days. If you don’t
have a dildo handy you can use your big toe or anything you want him to lick.
Sometimes I hang my hand over the side of the recliner
and let him hump away. I don’t move my hand. Of course I can’t turn the page with one hand oiled up so I make
the little bitch turn the page when I need it. This provides a long enough cooling down period that it takes him forever to
get off. I also like to stop him and tell him to get me something to drink or whatever from time to time. He will normally
start groveling for you to help him. If your in the mood fine help him out if not he will just have to work a bit harder.
Why not let him hump between your feet or your legs.
Make sure he doesn’t go so fast that the vibrations make it hard to read. Just lay on your stomach and let him go at
it. When he is close just separate your feet so he can’t get any friction going. Laugh at him as he pumps at the air.
Then let him beg a little start again.
I love a good make-out session. When he’s
horny so does he. For the best make out session of your life get him naked (no need for you to). Let him jerk off as he makes
out with you. If you can keep him from cumming right away I promise it will be like making out in high school again. I like
this so much that I will help him out and rub him while we are making out. I do it very slowly. It’s more of a tease
then a jerk off. About the third time of not allowing him to cum and you’ll be in the most passionate make-out session
ever. Again just a slow tease not fast enough to get him off. Slowly rub up one side then the other. Rub the head a little
etc. I’ve done this for well over an hour before. Actually I think I’m
going to go do this right now. Until next time your homework is to try something new and see how it works for you. You will
If you do put this information to use please drop
me an e-mail at email@example.com If your just joining the club I’d love to hear from you. Also if you have
some devious ideas of your own please send them to me. I’ll post them here if you’d like so we can all benefit
from your example!
Here is an e-mail I just received that I’d like to respond to.
I started working on my husband about 3 months ago. Over the last 90 days our
marriage just keeps getting better and the sex just keeps getting hotter. He is hornier then ever (after 23 years of marriage).
The spark is back and he can’t keep his hands off me. I don’t really have a “to do” list for him and
find that just controlling his orgasm and having long hand job sessions is keeping him very happy. He treats me like we are
on our first date all day long. I have to agree on the make-out session. These are the best! I frequently can’t wait
for him to ask and just start working him over just for the fun of it. This is a big change from the once a week that we would
make love that we had fallen into. It was always the same old thing I think I just did it before out of a sense of duty. Now
I really enjoy it. My only complaint is that I like a message every night. He groans but goes along with it. How can I get
him more excited about it? I want him to enjoy these rub downs too.
I believe that you are not locking him up. If he is masturbating himself between
your sessions this would explain why he is not jumping up and down to touch your skin. Lock him up and I promise he will ask
if he can give you a message every night and will linger over every inch of your body while doing it. If he is locked up and
this is still a problem. There are two easy solutions. If he groans no orgasm for him. Let him know and tell him what you
expect. Also make sure you making you sessions intense enough that he is still wanting more afterwards. Spend the time to
really wear him out and it will pay a huge reward in how he treats you the rest of the time.
Update Jan. 16th
I just wanted to pass this e-mail along. Please ladies keep them coming!
To make the make-out session even hotter consider tying his hands behind his
back. I like to be in total control of his pleasure so he remembers who the boss is and there is nothing better then making
it so he can’t even touch himself to make this clear. Rope, handcuffs or this cool behind the back
I’m having surgery on my elbow next week. I won’t be able to do much but lay about for about 2 weeks.
What should I do.
A:If I’m not capable of living
up to my end of this whole arrangement because I have a cold or I’m going to be out of town or maybe something bad has
happened and I just don’t feel like playing. I let my husband out and let him do what he needs to do. I have found if
I can’t pay attention to him and he can’t help himself his attitude goes sour. Again this is something fun for
us to share and having a cranky horny husband is not fun at all for either of us. On the other hand if I let him go he has
always tried extra hard to help me get through my trouble so we can get back to having other fun together.
Update Jan 19th
How do you find time for all this with kids?
A: Good question. My husband works from home so we get some fun together every
now and then during the day. Most of the time however we play in bed before sleep. Before we started this whole journey my
husband would stay up until midnight and then come to bed after I was asleep. Now as soon as I yawn he says “let’s
go to bed”. I get a good rub down most nights. Some nights he get’s one too.
We have a TV that is on a little
TV table in our bedroom. I had him move it to the wall on my side of the bed. This way I can watch TV why he is messaging
me or humping my feet/legs/hand etc. I was running out of books to read with the other setup.
Update Jan 21st
Thought I’d share this letter.
Bravo on the tying his hands while making out. I think this is the most desperate
he’s ever been. It was the most passionate night we’ve had in a long time. It’s nice to be desired like
Update Jan 23rd
Sometimes I prefer the sex when he's a little more aggressive. Can I have my cake and eat it too? Can I be in control of
him, yet still feel like he is sometimes taking control of me in the bedroom?
A: Yes, but not all the time and probably
not right away. At first, you really want to get him used to the fact that you are very much in control of the sexual dimension
in your relationship. After he has become accustomed to this fact, you may certainly indulge yourself by rewarding him with
an opportunity to ravage you (so to speak). Just make certain that it does not become the only way in which you engage in
intimacy, and that it only occurs as a result of your explicit desire to do so. It is also a very good idea to demand a massage,
a hot cup of herbal tea or anything else that might please you immediately afterwards. This brings him back to the reality
that you are still very much in control.
Update Jan 25th
just wanted to drop you an e-mail saying thanks because you saved my marriage. I had read your old site over a year ago. I
started just using some of your crazy sex ideas to keep him interested. He never wanted sex. We went from 1-2 times a week
to every other day and a year later we are still enjoying it. I don’t have a very strong libido but I’m keeping
him happy and always wanting more. I never planned to give him a list but one day I asked him to make me coffee in the morning
and we’ve just built from there. I feel like his girlfriend again and not his ball and chain. I owe you one.
A: I’m glad you are smart enough to put this information to use. It’s
really a simple thing but it really is so much fun. I have been getting many e-mails about the “List”. I never
really thought this was a bad thing just something to help keep him in the right mindset. Give it a shot, you can always get
rid of it if it doesn’t make your and his life better.
Update Jan 28th
Q: Sometimes I prefer the sex when he's a little more aggressive. Can I
have my cake and eat it too? Can I be in control of him, yet still feel like he is sometimes taking control of me in the bedroom?
Yes, but not all the time and probably not right away. At first, you really want to get him used to the fact that you are
very much in control of the sexual dimension in your relationship. After he has become accustomed to this fact, you may certainly
indulge yourself by rewarding him with an opportunity to ravage you (so to speak). Just make certain that it does not become
the only way in which you engage in intimacy, and that it only occurs as a result of your explicit desire to do so. It is
also a very good idea to demand a massage, a hot cup of herbal tea or anything else that might please you immediately afterwards.
This brings him back to the reality that you are still very much in control.
Update Jan 29th
Q: I love the idea but I can’t
give up intercourse. Help!
A: If you really need it’s no problem at all. There are no hard and fast
rules here. Just keep in a position that he is not the alpha male and this will still work out fine. Don’t let him cum.
Make sure it is clear to him. In fact while he is fucking you take a moment to tell him he is not allowed to cum inside you.
A simple “if you cum inside me you won’t cum again for week do you understand me bitch?” really goes along
way to setting you relationship straight.
When we first started I would let my husband fuck me and shoot his load ON
my pussy then he had to get me off with his tongue afterword. This is how I found out he would not offer to lick up his own
cum unless he was very, very horny. I find it easier to keep him in the proper mindset if I don’t let him screw me.
In fact he get’s off on my constant teasing about how he can’t.
See if you can keep him in the
non alpha male mind frame and still get what you need. If not consider getting a strap on for him to use on your or allow
some time for his oral skill to improve. They will. I’m to the point now where I like oral better then intercourse.
There have been about 20 women
that I know of who have followed my method and “improved” their marital relationships considerably. I’ve
kept close track of them via e-mail and give them all the pointers I can. I’ve become very good friends with several
of them since my first website went up. Most of these wonderful women and I have never met in person but I decided we shared
a bond so strong that we had to get together. So I planned the first meeting of the “Adored Because We Deserve It Society”.
We decided to meet in Vegas for a weekend to share tips and have a good time. We left the men at home to watch the kids and
keep of course they all had a to do list to keep them from getting into trouble.
It was simple to gather the girls.
We just told our husbands that if they’d like blow job they needed to make flight and hotel reservations. With in an
hour all of our flights were booked. Men are too easy sometimes. (don’t be silly I didn’t actually give Andy a
blow job, but I did give him the pleasure of an extra orgasm that week more on this later).
So we flew out on the 6th
and stayed for 4 days. We had a wonderful time we laughed our asses off, managed to win a few dollars gambling, had a spa
day, caught a concert but more then anything we bonded. There were 6 of us and we plan to do this again maybe in Sept. We
think the more people the more fun! So if you don’t do dishes please drop me an e-mail and let us know how your man
worships the ground you walk on. Assuming your following my method your invited! I’ll post the good e-mails here so
we can all learn.
So you might be wondering what
came out of 4 days of us sharing ideas, tips and techniques. Here are some of the highlights.
*We agreed that getting our man naked and rubbing him slowly while making out
is a great way to pass an hour.
*We found almost all of get a message every night. Some of us (myself included)
make this one of the gateways to sex. I require at least 30 minutes. If he does a poor job he’s jerking off on my feet
while I read or watch TV. If he does an OK job I’ll give him a hand job but make him edge himself x number of times
before he has the privilege of my touch. If he does a great job he doesn’t have to edge. If it was an incredible job
he can fuck me (lol like that would ever happen!) The point is they all put a lot of effort and it’s not the usual one
hand rub, rub ok I’m done.
*We all agree that making him keep it hard during a message makes him more
*Most of us feel that the more we call him bitch and tease him about being
reduced to jerking off, licking it up, only getting a hand job etc. will make him cum faster.
*Some of us have boyfriends that our husbands know about.
*Some of us have sent our SO’s to class for messages.
*It seems those of us who have been married the longest enjoyed this change
*None of us miss housework!
*3 of us had our husbands ask us for this.
*All of us would never go back.
*Only one of us misses normal sex (but not enough to go back)
*5 of us lied to our friends and family when they noticed we now had the perfect
*All of feel our spouse is happier now.
*All of feel our marriage is better then our friends.
*All of friends are envious of our husbands/houses/marriages
*5 of use spend more then an hour a week thinking of new ways to frustrate
*All of us know chivalry is not dead, it just needs a little encouragement.
*All of feel the group makes this easier,
we don’t have to come up with something new each time, we just read each others ideas and when we lack inspiration
we just use each others ideas.
*We all are willing to help another women be worshipped by her spouse, if we
can help you in anyway please send us a line at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Count me in on the next Vegas
trip. I’m sure there are juicier details and I’d love to experience them with you all next trip. I deserve it!
It’s funny to hear myself say that but after only a few months being adored I really feel like I do. My self esteem
has been low my entire life. I’ve always felt I was unattractive, and not as good as everyone else. I guess I felt I
didn’t deserve to be happy. Before this I’ve read a million self help books and seen 2 therapist. I wanted to
be happy with my life, I wanted to feel loved but until recently can’t honestly say I was.
. A friend pointed me to your
site and I read it with fascination. I didn’t even thing of actually doing this to my husband. I needed him to be a
strong manly man and this seemed like the furthest thing from that. My marriage was good. I was not particularly interested
in sex but we still did it mainly because I felt it was my duty. My husband was in a bit of a funk because he had been demoted
at work and was not taking this well. One day he was complaining about how untidy the house was and ended the whole argument
by saying “these dishes had better be done before the news”. I don’t think he meant it to be mean. He just
wanted to feel some pride about were he lived. Well whatever he meant or wanted my mind jumped to your webpage and vowed to
start applying your idea’s that night.
Fast forward to last night, just
a few months later. I let him out of his device and allowed him to give me a backrub. Before I would have to beg him and then
if he agreed it would be a half-assed 5 minutes of one hand rubbing. This time it was a half hour of him rubbing every inch
of my body and I could tell he loved it. When he was done I let him rub himself off on the bottom of my foot when I felt he
was close I’d have him ask me to lick up the precum and then continue. Before I allowed him to cum, and then only because
I was almost done with my book. I asked him if he had finished all his housework. LOL!!!
I am now the most pampered women
I know. I only do what I want and amazingly I have more energy to enjoy these things.
I love the feeling of power I
get from knowing how bad he wants me. He doesn’t just want me he absolutely needs me. I love having him begging and
groveling for me to touch him. When he messages me he is hard like a teenager the entire time. I feel loved, I don’t
feel wanted I am wanted. I am needed. He enjoys taking care of my every need. He loves to wash my care, he loves touch me.
For my part I love it, love it, love it. It makes me feel ten feet tall even when he’s not around. I revel in my friend
envious looks when they find out my husband has done another wonderful thing for me. “Oh you mean your husband doesn’t
get you flowers every week? Um oh I’m sorry to hear that”.
It’s not all about me. He
says he likes the rush, he enjoys pleasing me, and he especially enjoys when slap him on the face and say “hurry up
bitch or you’ll be licking off my asshole instead of my foot”. I wish I had saved all the money I had spent on
therapy on a cb6000 10 years ago!
On Sunday my brothers family will
be over. I know I won’t have to worry about setting the table, making dinner or anything else I don’t want to
do. I know he will fawn all over me like a teenager in love.
I know I’ll feel like I
deserve to be treated like this! Thank you so much C.
If you had been here last night this is what you would have seen. “H”
stands for him (let’s make it lower case, lol!!) “M” stands for me.
h: I need to get off, may I please be allowed to cum.
M: Give me a foot message and I’ll think about it bitch
h: (working very hard to do a good job rubbing while I finish one more chapter)
M: (I unlock his CB600) Keep it hard or I’ll lock it up again
h: (messaging me with one foot and himself with the other)
M: (rub up and down his dick with my foot until I can feel the precum start
to flow) You better lick that up right now bitch
h: (lick, lick (LOL!!!)
M: I’m not spending all night jerking your little dick off bitch. If
you can get yourself close 4 times then I might consider touching it again. I want proof your close though, and you’ll
be cleaning that proof of my feet.
h: (wanking away, I can tell how close he is by how hard he is breathing and
grunting, he wipes some precum on the bottom of my foot and starts to lick it up and goes for rouund 2)
M: Remember when I used to blow you? Remember when you used to be able to fuck
me? Ha Ha Ha now look at you. I keep your dick locked up while I fuck anyone I want. Ha Ha Ha and your greatful just to get
to jerk off you little bitch. (I love to remind him and it makes him so hard to hear this, even when I didn’t fuck anyone
but him he still got extra hard from hearing this, I always say this to him and always works, by the way I don’t even
look up from my book to say this)
h: (wank, wank, pant, pant)
M: I asked you a question bitch
h: (wank, wank) Yes, I remember when I used to fuck you. I wish I could fuck
you right now (desperation in his voice)
M: Ha Ha Ha, keep wishing bitch, your lucky I give you hand job sometimes.
h: (pant, pant… precum and a good one at that, I can tell this is really
driving him crazy)
M: I’ll tell you what, If you get your friend S. to fuck me a few times
maybe you’ll get lucky. (I’d like to screw S. I’m not sure why but I know he would be good and of course
it’s really just to keep hubby tormented)
h: (wank, precum, lick lick) Really? How many times
M: four, maybe five it depends how good he is.
h: (wank, pant) I see him on Sunday, I’ll talk to him
M: Ha Ha Ha, I bet you will bitch. I didn’t say I’d fuck you afterwords
but I did say you’d get lucky. It will be worth your while.
h: (whine wank, wank, precum, lick lick)
M: OK bitch that is four (grab his dick and start to jerk him off. I don’t
actually wrap my hand all the way around his dick, it’s really a loose fit. I just want to consistantly glance it, but
not make it fully satisfying, sometimes I give him a solid stroke but only on the first 1 inch of his dick, I want hiim frustrated
and bucking my hand, after about 2 minutes I stop)
M: OK, you can finish on my feet. Lick it up when your done bitch, that’s
the price you pay to cum.
h: (wank, wank, pant, pant)
M: Make it fast bitch
h: (wank, cum, cum, cum, lick, lick, lick)
M: Ha Ha Ha
Sign me up for the next girls
weekend wherever and whenever. I’ve already told you my story but at your request here is a recap for everyone else.
I have always loved my husband.
We had great sex for the first 4 years of our marriage. By great sex I mean hot, steamy, kinky sex that would leave us both
exhausted. I don’t know why but these hot wild nights slowly went from every other night to every month, and finally
every other year. I don’t know if I missed them, I guess I never really thought about them. I knew going into our marriage
that the doe eyed, can’t keep our hands off each other would not last. I was right, after many years we had settled
into a friendly and comfortable but largely sexless marriage. It wasn’t bad, it just lacked the spark we had when we
My husband, like C’s is
very successful. He makes a six figure salary and is an overachiever at work. He comes up with wild ideas and follows through
with them (like the time he trained to swim to Puttin-Bay, then did it). He built a cabin with his friends one summer and
made the plans up himself. When he does anything he has to master it. He is driven to solve problems and sees any challenge
as something he must overcome. If he is playing a video game with the kids he will study it from every side until he is the
best. He took up golf and 3 years later was first in his league. He grabs an idea and obsesses about it until he has overcome
it. He can’t wait in a line or deal with heavy traffic. In short he is the classic type “A” personality.
He make every effort to excel
socially as well. My parents, friends his co-workers etc. all think he is remarkable. They feel that way because he drives
himself to be remarkable.
He manages a distribution center
for a large retailer. He has many people reporting to him. I’ve met many of them and they all carry on about what a
remarkable person he is.
When he walks into a room if he
wants it the spotlight will be on him. He is powerful, successful and obsessed with achieving. This is one of the reasons
I love him and could tell from the first time I met him that he would always be a bit larger then life.
About 2 years ago I was reading
an article in Cosmo. Called “The Madness of Powerful Men”. The description of a powerful man fit my husband to
the letter. It was as though they had come and met him and wrote the article about him. In summery they stated that this drive
to succeed was a form of mental illness. Men with this problem could not stop themselves from obsessively overcoming obstacles
and achieving the most in every situation. While this constant drive to succeed works, it also creates some serious side effects.
One is stress. Another is the never being satisfied. Type “A’s” with high salaries and influence also have
a very high chance to cheat on their spouses because they need to conquer other women. The divorce rate for these men is close
This last bit sent shivers up
I did a search for type “A” personality tests and answered them
as if I was my husband. He definitely fit this category. Further reading confirmed that these men have a high ratio of infidelity
and unstable relationships. An article on about.com gave detail about these men’s unusual sex lives. They tend towards
extremes and often have veracious and deviant sexual appetites. The majority preferred submissive relationships. The theory
is they are so used to being in control they enjoyed giving it up. I thought of all the scandals with politicians, ministers
and celebrities being caught with prostitutes and committing perverted sex acts and it seems to confirm this.
I think I was driven by fear more
then anything. I did not want to lose my husband. I love him and in addition I don’t know what I would financially without
him. I have not worked since college and don’t like the idea of working full time. Even if I did I would not be able
to live like I live now. I resolved to figure out how to keep him from straying.
I had a brief discussion about
S&M with him and asked if he would ever be submissive. He acted repulsed but could not leave the subject alone. I believe
he did not want to be viewed that way but was secretly excited by the idea. He brought it up several times that week. During
the last conversation I told him I’d like to dominate him. I could tell he liked the idea. A few days later he gave
me a book on female domination which was an obvious display of interest. Through some searching on the Web I found C’s
previous site. I read with awe. Not only would this keep any submissive feelings he might have satisfied but I had so much
I started to put these ideas to
the test and found that he had a huge desire for this kind of sex (can you call it sex?).
The kinkier I got the more he
ate it up. After several weeks he was lavishing me with attention and pampering me like never before. I could see that he
had made having sex with me another item to achieve. Winning my touches and caress was his main focus in life. All I had to
do was keep at this game and I would not have to worry about him straying.
He always wanted sex during this
first month. Almost every day he would ask for some release. In addition I knew he was masturbating at night and sometimes
in the morning (one man can’t possibly use that many towels by showering alone!).
I confronted him in the most humiliating
way I could think of and he admitted to it. Afterwards I let him know that I did not want him to masturbate while he was not
directly in my presence and recommended getting a chastity device to prevent him from it. He almost ran to the computer to
It arrived a few weeks later.
I just let it site in a drawer. I knew the idea exited him but I made him ask for it. Having him locked up really took this
to a whole different level.
He was more focused on sex then
ever. More so then when we first met. He tripped all over himself to get every little task just perfect. He gave me messages
that rivaled those of the best spas. He cleaned and cleaned. Cleaning just made him hornier. He knew he was above this task,
he could hire someone to do this. I feel it only made the humiliation worse for him and that he sees a connection between
doing his tasks and his access to me which he needed with every fiber of his body.
After about 90 days his sex drive
started to slow to something manageable and I allowed him 2 masturbation sessions following C’s methods and 2 hand jobs
as long as he had been performing up to my standards. I would give him 1 minute of hand job for every 3 minutes of message
he gave me over the course of the week.
It may sound like this is a 24
hour arrangement but it really isn’t. We are “normal” most of the time. You might notice he always helps
me with my coat or he always get’s the door for me but beyond that we don’t really interact like dom and sub with
exception of the frequent tease and a few hours of sex each week. He tells me all my tasks are like extended foreplay so from
his eyes the sex side might feel longer. It’s all very natural and FUN!
I’m not comfortable conveying
to you the extreme details of exactly what we do. I will say he has an appetite for humiliation that is greater then most.
He enjoys things that have shocked me. However I’m comfortable with our arrangement and enjoy even the most extreme
of our play.
I constantly exchange e-mails
with C and some of the other women seeking fresh ideas. I have also taken a lover. Although some of it is for show. For my
husband knowing that he can’t have sex with me and that another man can makes him strive harder and makes him absolutely
insationable. I get the best reaction when I remind him of the how he can’t have me but others can. Much of the time
I go out with friends but make him think I’m out on a date. I do go on actual dates on rare occasion and must admit
this is fun. It is an ego boost to know how bad he wants me and that other men do as well.
I’m on the plus side, perhaps
I should say the extra plus size but have had no problem finding dates on the internet. My dates know that I am married and
frequently know the full extent of my relationship. I enjoy making my husband post my profile and select a few “studs”
for me to respond to.
see one of his friends with regularity. His friend has no idea of my our marital arrangement. A few times a month we get a
baby sitter and go over to his house (he is single). I have sex with him (and it’s incredible). He thinks my husband
then comes into the bedroom and has sex with me after he is done. What he does not know is I tell my husband how good it was
and how I loved it while dear hubby laps his friends cum from me and slowly strokes off on my feet. This gives me a self confidence
boost for a full week afterwards. I feel like the most desired women on the planet. It also strongly re-enforces in hubby’s
mind that he is not the alpha male.
Again this is not a constant event.
At the most 3 times a month and more typically once or twice with his friend.
I see it is too late to be brief.
I don’t want to be to preachy I’m so happy what this has done for our relationship. I am having more fun then
I’ve had in years. I really do have the cleanest house, the best husband and best relationship of anyone I know. We
are more connected then ever and my self esteem is at an all time high. I would urge anyone to explore this with their loved
one. You can always turn back if it proves unrewarding.
Please send me your success stories.
Don’t let your little btich get off this easy though. We want to read how devious you can be. I especially would like
to hear from couples just starting down this path. I’d really like to be able to show everyone the detail of how this
progesses from the first day on. Of course we be happy to offer you any advice and support you may need to make the transition
a smooth one. Please send stories and juicy details to…
Sorry for the lack of updates.
April was a lovely month maybe our best yet. I’ll give you an update on what I’ve been up to then start to add
some of the many e-mails I’ve got over the next 2 weeks.
My anniversary is at the end of
May. I have been slowly decreasing the number of orgasms that A. is allowed to have. I like to keep him horney as he responds
much better and is generally more fun to be around when he is interested in pleasing me. So here is the new schedule.
I get a backrub every night. For
every 1 minutes he spends messaging me (provided he can keep himself hard the whole time) he get’s one second of my
hand. He is allowed to cash this time in every 2 weeks. So he has only had 2 orgasms from me all month. He absolutely begs
to give me a message. I don’t know if it’s the weather or the fact that he is so horney all the time right now
but it has made me think about sex more then usual. Most nights I’ve let him message me for 30-45 minutes and then rolled
over and let him lick me off as well. You don’t know how relaxing this is! Once I’ve had a thorough rub down and
a few orgasms I sleep so soundly. Last week I had him do this twice during the day. I’ve never taken Valumn but I’m
sure it feels just like this feeling.
Of course since I’m not
jerking him off 2 times a week he wants to jerk off every night. I’ve had to cut him back 2 times a week because I’m enjoying his extra horniness so much! It’s a fine line. He needs to be satisfied
but I love to keep him horney.
I’ve run out of things for
him to do around the house. The only issue is that having him do some work makes him perform more. I’ve had to make
up some tasks that really don’t need done but really with the extra messages sessions it is all working out.
I’m really amazed how horney
this is making me. I really needed fucked badly today. I have not been horney like this since we first started this several
years ago. Once the kids were out of the house I couldn’t take it any longer. I walked into his office and told him
I needed some attention. He leaped up and almost ran to the bedroom. I told him I wanted fucked and I could see his excitement.
He ripped off my cloths then his cloths. I let him get on top of me and just before he was ready I said something like “Oh
how cute, the poor little bitch thought he would actually get to enjoy this?”,
the look on his face was priceless, I laughed so hard I almost pee’d. I knew if I let him fuck me he’d cum in
5 seconds and who wants that. I had him put on 4 condoms. I was fairly sure he would not be able to feel a thing. We this
worked. He tried and tried and gave me the kind of screwing I really wanted. When he lost focus I slapped him a few time to
bring him back to his task. After what seemed like an hour I let him rub himself off on the bottom of my foot. I made him
stop and lick his pre-cum of a few times just to make it last long enough to be memorable for him.
I can’t tell you how many
e-mails I’ve got over the last few weeks. Just so we understand each other I love to get e-mails. I love to share stories,
give advice and especially exchange techniques. I get many e-mails from people who are doing this half asses however and to
be direct I don’t have time for that nonsense. If you want to be treated like a queen and have your man literally worship
you the ground walk on this is the place for you and I want to talk with you! If you just “feel like he won’t
be the same, want him to have his freedom, or just want him to be my equal” have fun with that I wish you luck, when
you are arguing over who has to go out and pick up a gallon of milk please think of me!
I received an exciting e-mail
from someone that was interested in perfecting her marriage. After a few e-mails here is what I discovered. She had a good
marriage, she and her husband had a fairly good relationship and had a good line of communication. They almost never had sex,
and when they did she did it out of guilt or because she felt she should (sorry but if you are married and want to stay that
way you will need to put out in some way!). Her ideal life did not include housework. She e-mailed me because she was interested
in giving my ideas a try but did not know where to start. There are many tricky and devious ways to start this whole thing
out however I recommended that she just bring it up to him. Just cut right to the chase and offer him a exchange of sex for
housework. I told her to leave out the part that in 90 days he would be able to think of nothing but her and would be begging
her to let him give her a back rub. Here is her response.
I did it!!! I followed your advice
and just kind of brought it up. I was nervous at that idea and it took me 2 days to work up the courage but last night I told
him I’d been thinking about sex. He put his book down and gave me his full attention. I told him I think that I’d
want sex more if I was more relaxed. He asked how he could help relax me. I told him a message would help. He gave me a message
for about 15 minutes and I gave him a very slow very long blow job.
The next we got in bed and he
started rubbing my back. He mentioned that he had bought some message oil on his way home that night. He gave me a nice message
and during it I mentioned that I get stressed out because of all the work that needs done around the house. I told him I felt
like no matter what there is more to do and that I am always stressed out because I’m so far behind all the time.
He jumped in right away saying
he’d be happy to help. I took a deep breath and just kind of said “If you will do the housework I will make sure
you get off at least 4 times a week”. My heart was beating like crazy and because I did not know what he would say.
He kept rubbing my back for about 5 minutes and then started asking for details. The negotiation was on. He wanted to know
exactly what he would have to do in order to get his orgasms. I could tell that for him the idea of having more sex was all
that was important and that he would have agreed to anything.
This was 3 weeks ago. Let me tell you what has happened since. Starting the
very next day her husband took over all the duties that she did not want to do. They have not argued in 3 weeks, she is now
controlling his orgasms so he only orgasms in her presence. She has made giving her a message a requirement. In 3 weeks she
has received 20 messages, done no housework that she didn’t want to do, received flowers 2 times and to quote her “feels
better about their relationship then ever”.
He has jerked off in front of
her 8 times (a shy one! But more likely he is sneaking more in when she doesn’t know, but we will fix that one next
month) and he has had 5 handjobs. When she teases him about not getting to fuck her he usually cums with in a minute. I guess
they’ve adapted but it will get soooo much better. Here is a quote from a recent e-mail from her.
“I’ve been trying different things this week. I will basically
give every idea you’ve written about a try and see how I/we like it. Last night I had him give me a message and then
eat me out. I wasn’t all that turned on but thought I’d give it a try. The message was very nice and is better
each day. I rolled over and pushed his head between my legs and locked my heal around the back of his leg. 20 minutes later
I finally pulled him off. I had 2 orgasms which almost never happens. I think it was knowing that I didn’t have to perform
afterwards. I had that warm sensation all over my body like I’d had one to many glasses of wine and every muscle of
body was relaxed and just sinking into the bed. I let him get off by humping my feet and leg “no jerking off with your
hand bitch!” just like you said. I stopped him every time he got close for 5-6 times. When he was done he was completely
spent. Afterwards the glow lasted until I woke the next morning. I will do this again and again. I have not been this relaxed
in so long. It’s hard to put into words but I felt like I was a kid during summer break, no pressures, no stress, nothing
to have to take care of just a beautiful peace deep down.”
Here are a few comments from the
e-mail box. I don’t want to print all the e-mails I get because that would take up too much space. When a good idea
or comment comes in I want to share them though so here it goes.
“You don’t need to stroke the entire cock. Just the head is enough.
If you really want to rev. him up just rub the lst inch of the underside of his cock. This will make him crazy.”
“The Eagle Claw is when you put your palm on his dick and make a claw
shape with your fingers. Just the tips should touch his shaft. Stroke up and down bumping the end of his dick with your palm
on the down stroke. Very frustrating for him.
The grease monkey is when you
lube up one palm then grab his shaft with your other hand. You rub just his head on your palm until he comes.”
Reverse milking is when you slow stroke down but not up. Serves to make him
horney as hell but almost impossible to cum from.
“He is so good at oral sex now that intercourse no longer crosses my
“I ask him if he is happier now all the time and he always says yes.
We started this as a one week experiment. This was 4 months ago.”
“I don’t understand the psychology behind this. I just know that
I haven’t been this stress free in a long, long time.”